My Story:
The Path Of Love & Rediscovery
I grew up the seventh of eight kids in a loud house filled with love, competition, and big personalities. There was always energy in the air. We pushed each other. We fought. We laughed. We learned how to be strong.
But strength took on a new meaning when my older brother Brent passed away in 2004. I was 18 years old. Grief entered our home in a way that never fully left. That loss lit a fire in me. It made me disciplined. Focused. Driven. I poured my pain into swimming.
I became an All-American, a Big Ten Champion, and an Olympic Trials swimmer. From the outside, it looked like success. Inside, my drive was fueled by something deeper. Grief. A need to prove myself. A need to make my life mean something.
But performance could only carry me for so long. When my college swimming career came to an end, I felt lost. The structure was gone. The identity was gone.
Without it, I had to face the questions I had spent years avoiding. Who was I without achievement and performance? And was I worthy of the life I was living?
These questions did not stay confined in my mind. They followed me into all areas of my life, especially my relationships. And when my relationships failed, I did not just feel heartbroken. I felt defective.
I wondered if I was worthy of love. I wondered if there was something fundamentally wrong with me.
So I turned to understanding people more deeply.
After my athletic career, I dedicated my life to service. I became a volunteer firefighter, EMT, occupational therapist, coach, and healer. Over time, I noticed something fascinating. Humans were not random. We had patterns. Patterns of belief. Patterns of behavior. Patterns in how we love, how we protect ourselves, and how we unconsciously repeat the same struggles. Helping people see those patterns became part of my work.
But there was one pattern I still hadn’t fully understood... My Own.
At 35, I had a thriving therapy practice. I was helping others transform. My life made sense on paper. But beneath the surface, there was a whisper I could not silence. Eventually, the whisper became too loud to ignore.
“There has to be more.”
So I did the only completely logical and totally sane thing anyone in my shoes would do... I left everything and began what became a three-year sabbatical across India, Nepal, and Southeast Asia. I lived in ashrams. I practiced yoga, breathwork, and meditation for several hours a day. I believed I was on the path to spiritual enlightenment.
Instead, my life fell apart.
A few days after a major sinus surgery in India, my girlfriend broke up with me. I was alone, recovering, living in a tiny room on top of a building in heavy heat and humidity. My face throbbed from surgery. My heart throbbed from heartbreak.
I remember lying in bed crying, asking myself, how did I end up here?
I thought I was supposed to be evolving. Instead, I felt more lost, broken, and unlovable than ever.
I went from seven hours of daily practice to mindlessly scrolling Instagram and questioning my entire existence.
And the challenges did not stop there.
I was bitten by a dog while hiking in Kashmir and had a severe reaction to the rabies vaccines. I crashed a motorbike in Ladakh and couldn’t move well for weeks. I suffered a stroke and temporarily lost vision on the left side of my field of view.
For nearly two years, over 90 percent of my sabbatical was injury, illness, heartbreak, and disorientation.
I kept asking, why does this keep happening to me?
But despite everything, I refused to go home. I was determined to understand. I was willing to let the experience break me open completely.
In my third year, something began to shift. There was more ease. More flow. More connection with the people I met. And slowly, a deeper understanding began to emerge. I started to see that none of these experiences had been random.
Each challenge carried a gift.
The breakup after my surgery forced me to deeply study relationships. It pushed me to develop boundaries. To understand polarity, desire, and emotional safety. To hold myself and others accountable in a way that I never had before.
The dog bite led me to spend months in Buddhist monasteries and even to a chance meeting with the Dalai Lama. The motorbike accident taught me how to slow down and to receive help from strangers. The stroke taught me the sacred importance of aligning mind, body, and heart.
Every loss gave me clarity. And slowly, the story I had carried for decades began to dissolve. I realized I was never broken. I was never unlovable. I had believed that story for so long that it felt like the truth.
That realization changed everything.
The events in my life, even the most painful chapters, have been an expression of love, shaping me into a deeper awareness and perception of life.
I began to see something extraordinary. Across yoga, Buddhism, neuroscience, trauma healing, and high-performance psychology… the same transformational pattern kept appearing. Different traditions. Different languages. But the same process.
A process of breaking old identities, reconnecting to truth, and rediscovering who we really are. I did not learn it from a book. I lived it in my body.
That process became the foundation of my work.
It became SPIRIT Alchemy.
If you've read this far, something in you already knows.
You've done the work. You've had the success. You've checked the boxes. But somewhere along the way, the color started to fade, and now you feel muted, distant, and disconnected from the woman you know you're meant to be.
That's not a failure of effort. It's a signal that you need something different.
SPIRIT Alchemy was built for exactly that moment.
Achievements:
Master's Degree in Occupational Therapy
Expert-level Myofascial Release Practitioner
Health and Wellness Coach
Life Transformation Coach
Relationship Coach
Yoga and Meditation Instructor
Wim Hof Method: Trained Instructor
Volunteer Firefighter & EMT
Master Scuba Diver
Swimming Coach
Olympic Trials Competitor & Big 10 Champion (Swimming)
Summiter of Imja Tse @ 20,300ft
Met the Dalai Lama after a chance encounter following a dog bite
Collaborated with Sadhguru at Isha Yoga Center in India
FAQS
Question: Why would I want to learn about myself and relationships from a man?
That is a very valid question.
Truly, who am I to tell you anything about your life?
I’m not here to tell you what to think. I’m here to help you see yourself more clearly. And here’s what I’ve learned:
Wisdom is not masculine or feminine. A gender, race, or creed does not own the truth. Depth belongs to anyone willing to go there.
I have spent years dismantling my own blind spots, particularly those I carried as a man in life and relationships. I’ve sat in ashrams in India, studied the teachings of the Buddha, and trained my nervous system through breath, meditation, and discipline. I’ve broken down my own patterns in all areas of my life. I’ve done the work most people avoid.
And because I’ve explored both the masculine and feminine currents within myself, I can help you see patterns from both sides of the relational mirror.
Sometimes healing with a man is powerful precisely because it’s different.
Not to replace anyone.
Not to override your intuition.
But to offer a perspective you may not have had access to before.
The real question isn’t:
“Does it matter what gender you learn from?”
The real question is:
“Is this person embodied? Are they integrated? Do they see clearly? And do I feel safe?”
If the answer is yes, then growth becomes universal.
Question: What is SPIRIT Alchemy?
As someone who has spent years helping women navigate the most challenging aspects of their lives and relationships, I developed SPIRIT Alchemy—a framework designed to break the patterns that keep them stuck, reconnect them with their vibrant, deeply aligned selves, and help them create relationships with true depth and passion.
SPIRIT Alchemy is a guided journey inward designed to help you release old patterns, reconnect with your essence, and create relationships and a life that feel profoundly true.
The SPIRIT Alchemy framework unfolds through six main stages of inner transformation. Each one builds upon the last, guiding you deeper into clarity, alignment, and authentic connection.
S — Stepping In
Every transformation begins with a single step inward.
Through powerful, intentional movement and breath, you reconnect with your body and quiet the noise of the mind.
You begin to feel clearer, lighter, and fully present in your life again.
P — Purpose
Your life unfolds through the story you carry within you.
Here, you explore the deeper beliefs and meanings shaping your choices and relationships.
As your story evolves, you rediscover your values, direction, and deeper reason for being.
I — Influence
Everything around you is shaping who you are becoming.
In this phase, you learn to consciously choose the relationships, environments, and inputs that nourish your growth and elevate your life.
Because the truth is simple: Proximity is power.
R — Refocus
Where your attention goes, your life follows.
This stage helps you refocus on what truly matters, allowing your energy to flow with clarity and intention.
You begin to feel centered, purposeful, and aligned with your path.
I — Inner Growth
True change happens quietly within.
Through powerful inner practices, you begin to release limiting beliefs and strengthen your connection to your inner wisdom.
A sense of calm, confidence, and personal power begins to emerge.
T — Transformation
This is where everything integrates.
What once felt distant now becomes embodied—clarity, purpose, and meaningful connection.
You step into a way of living that feels authentic, grounded, and deeply alive.
Question: How is this work different from others?
Many of the women who come into this work have already done therapy, read the books, and even attended retreats. For a while, things felt better… but eventually old patterns returned.
That’s because most approaches address only one part of transformation—your thoughts, your emotions, or your environment.
SPIRIT Alchemy works differently.
It integrates your body, beliefs, attention, and environment into one process, helping change happen not just intellectually, but at the level where patterns are actually formed and repeated.
That’s when transformation begins to last.
Question: Will I have enough time to commit to Unleash Your SPIRIT?
Yes. The course was intentionally designed for busy people.
Most participants spend about 2 hours per week for 7 weeks moving through the material and practices. The lessons are clear, focused, and broken into manageable pieces so you can integrate them into your life without feeling overwhelmed.
If you feel inspired, you can move faster. But the structure allows you to create real change without rearranging your entire life.
Question: Is the cost of the course worth it? What if I can’t afford it?
It’s completely natural to think about the cost.
But the real question is: what is the cost of staying where you are?
More months—or years—feeling disconnected, repeating the same relationship patterns, or wondering why the life you want still feels out of reach.
Unleash Your SPIRIT gives you a clear structure, proven practices, and deep insight into your patterns so you can move forward with clarity instead of guessing your way through change.
If finances feel tight, reach out. We can explore options together. The right path forward should feel empowering, not stressful.
Question: How do I know this course will actually work for me?
That’s a very fair question.
This course was created for people who have already tried many things — therapy, books, retreats—but still feel like something hasn’t fully clicked.
What makes this different is the integration. You won’t just learn ideas—you’ll practice powerful techniques that help you:
• Understand your deepest patterns
• Reconnect with your intuition and inner clarity
• Create a grounded vision for the life and relationships you truly want
When people apply the practices, the shifts tend to be profound and lasting.
Question: What if I’ve already done therapy, retreats, or other programs?
Many of the people who take this course have.
Often those experiences create powerful insights, but the changes don’t always stick once life gets busy again.
Unleash Your SPIRIT focuses on embodying the transformation, not just understanding it intellectually. The practices are designed to help the insights integrate into how you live, decide, and relate every day.
Question: What if I’m not sure I’m ready?
If you’re here, something inside you is already asking for more.
You don’t need to have everything figured out. You only need a willingness to look honestly at yourself and take the next step forward.
If you’re ready to stop circling the same patterns and start creating a life that feels aligned, Unleash Your SPIRIT will meet you there.
